When it comes to planning your wedding day, few decisions stir up as much emotion (and debate) as this one:
Should you do a First Look, or wait for the Traditional Aisle Reveal?
As a wedding photographer, I’ve had the honor of capturing both moments countless times—and there’s no “right” answer. But there is a right answer for you.
Let’s walk through the pros and cons of each, from a photographer’s point of view, to help you decide what fits your day best.
What’s a First Look?
A First Look is a private moment between the couple before the ceremony, where you see each other for the first time—just the two of you (and me, quietly in the background with my camera). It’s intimate, emotional, and usually takes place in a quiet, beautiful spot we’ve chosen ahead of time.
What’s a Traditional Aisle Reveal?
This is the classic moment: one partner stands at the altar, waiting as the other walks down the aisle. The music swells, the guests rise, and that first look happens in front of everyone. It’s timeless and full of emotion.
First Look: The Pros
More Time Together
You actually get more time with each other on your wedding day. You’re not waiting hours just to say hello.A Private, Emotional Moment
It’s a chance to calm nerves, cry, laugh, and just be with each other without 150 pairs of eyes watching.More Flexibility for Photos
You can knock out most of your couple portraits, wedding party, and even some family shots before the ceremony—so you’re not rushed later.Better Light (Depending on Time of Day)
If you’re getting married close to sunset, a First Look helps ensure we get beautiful daylight portraits.
First Look: The Cons
You Lose That Aisle Surprise
If seeing each other at the altar is something you’ve dreamed about since forever, a First Look might take away from that “big moment.”It Requires an Earlier Start
You’ll need to start hair, makeup, and prep earlier in the day to be ready in time.
Aisle Reveal: The Pros
- It’s Traditional and Timeless
That moment when you lock eyes from across the aisle is pure magic—there’s a reason it’s been the go-to for generations. - More Anticipation
Holding off builds that emotional tension and excitement—sometimes you can feel the energy in the air. - Shared With Your Guests
If you love the idea of a big, cinematic reveal in front of your family and friends, this is your moment.
Aisle Reveal: The Cons
My Take as a Photographer
Honestly? I love photographing both.
A First Look offers more control over lighting, timing, and logistics. But the Traditional Aisle Reveal? It brings a level of energy and emotion that’s hard to replicate.What matters most is how you want to experience your day.
I’ll work with you to build a timeline that fits your priorities—whether that’s maximizing portrait time, protecting your first moment, or sneaking in a quiet breath together before the celebration begins.
Final Thoughts
No matter which option you choose, that first moment is going to be unforgettable. Whether it happens in a private garden or at the end of an aisle, I’ll be there to capture it all—the nerves, the joy, the tears, the look on their face when they see you.
📩 Still unsure which way to go? Let’s talk it through together and build a timeline that works beautifully for your day.
